February 02, 2003
"Just Friends" Bullshit
"Just Friends" that is the title of an upcoming movie. Its also an incredibly popular way of ending a relationship.
Why? Well because if it isn't mutual or its shoved down the other persons throat, its a way of sparing the person who had to say "just friends" a lot of guilt and pain because this way they're just "rephrasing" the relationship, and saying "I don't like you enough to call you my boyfriend, but I don't want to hurt you by telling you to get the hell out of my world."
Well, guess what, I think "Just Friends" is fucking cruel. Because it doesn't fully and fairly deal with the other person. It gives them the hope and dreams that "we'll go through 'just friends' for a while and then we'll be back together." Why don't people just really say what they mean. Instead of saying "just friends" say "I don't want to date you, I don't feel that way for you, and if you'd like audition to be one of my friends, and take a big fucking step down on my priority scale, so far down that you'll never see me again."
Bitter? Me? You bet.
I agree Nick. I just read Seans blog, this whole situation sucks. Even though you are probably feeling a lot better about it right now. I understand totally, obviously. But at least you didn't get strung along. I guess thats the worst.
yes. The just friends copout is just that. I told my "friend" so, tonight. I don't need a beer buddy. Three years and daily phone conversations........ if there's no potential for friendship to blossom, just fucking say so. He couldn't, so I did. yea for me!@