Nicholas Barnard PHL399: Ideal Lover/Sex Object 2/7/03
There are two radically different ways in which I can describe my ideal lover or sex object. Both of these ways are rooted in generally conflicting desires: the desire to have an intellectually and emotionally meaningful relationship, versus the (for lack of a better term) pure penis driven desire for sexual intercourse with an extremely physically desirable man. These qualities aren't fundamentally in conflict, but in practice, it is near impossible to find both of them in the same man. Ergo, I shall describe these qualities independently.
My ideal lover in the intellectual/emotional sense would be someone who had an interest in ideas in general (known as the study of philosophy), computers, an appreciation for fine art of all types and critiquing it in a critical manner. In addition he would be communicatively intelligent and honest person, which is that I would not have to spend inordinate amounts of time determining what was on his mind or what he was trying to say, it would be obvious. He would also have the ability to genuinely laugh at himself, and make playful fun of me, and make me laugh at myself.
Also an extremely important quality he would possess would be the ability to push me in many ways, intellectually, professional, emotionally, and yes sexually. He would be someone who is always striving to improve himself and the people around him, to see them fulfill their full potential.
The purely physical ideal man would be someone who is extremely fit, has a six-pack and is nearly fat free. He would be naturally (or through laser surgery) hair free with the exception of his pubic area and his head. He would be well endowed, but not overly so, and possess clear, clean skin, and a bright beaming smile, with whitened, orthodontist approved teeth. His capacity for sex, and cuddling would be endless, but he would not crave it, unless he sensed that I was craving those activities.